Bringing in New Preteen Faces

CTA Presents: Focus on Leadership

Bringing in New Preteens

Introduction: Cold-calling preteens is definitely not a good way to reach these kids and get them to church. Engage preteens with activities they’ll love and make a special effort to engage their parents, too—that’s how you reach this age group.


  • Events designed specifically for preteens are a great way to get kids in the church doors. Create events that will make the preteens want to bring friends.
  • When new preteens come to church, be intentional about connecting them to a small-group leader that will be a consistent presence for them.
  • Small-group leaders are essential—you can’t make a disciple from a stage.
  • Small-group leaders will build genuine relationships with the preteens. The leader is the person who knows when a preteen is having a bad day or has something to celebrate or when the preteen misses a few weeks. Leaders can hold the preteens accountable and provide a safe environment for them to express concerns.
  • Reaching parents is part of preteen ministry.
    • Make it an easy interaction for the parents; reach them where they are.
    • Consider engaging the parents briefly at pickup and drop off times.
    • Create a Facebook group for your preteens’ parents. Post pictures, celebrations, and resources.
  • Two pieces of advice for preteen ministry:
    • Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
    • Don’t waste your time. If something isn’t working, let it go.

Thought Starters:

  • Do your preteens currently bring friends to your events and activities?
  • How could you improve the way you interact with your preteens’ parents?